tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7145439356430068072.post5706531904995299899..comments2024-01-26T07:38:12.681-08:00Comments on a life made simple: Live simple, live frugal, stay home with your childrenTeresa Johannesma Woodhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04452415576469118219noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7145439356430068072.post-59762607787697959942012-06-30T22:35:22.957-07:002012-06-30T22:35:22.957-07:00Hey Bob! Sorry for the delay getting back to you -...Hey Bob! Sorry for the delay getting back to you - I've been thinking about your comment for days as I have been raking sites - I just haven't been able to get fingers to keyboard. Thanks for taking the time to let me know how it worked for you guys. I was thinking about the kids that are better in daycare then at home. I'm still not sure about that though.....for a child being with parents is probably still the best option for them from an emotional point of view. That is a tough one for sure!<br /><br />According to our society - Derek would be considered 'less then ideal' also - he cannot work on his own in a job and therefore I am our bread winner. Case closed. That didn't work so well when I had Cassia and then wasn't able to leave her with Derek full time. That is why I suppose I am qualified to speak on this topic. I have a Masters of Architecture, and according to most I should be out working somewhere. But nope - I'm not going to do it. As I mentioned in response to another comment - I traded that for cleaning toilets and emptying garbages (among many other tasks) in order to be home with Cassia. The good thing about this job of course is that we work together and are allowed to figure out who does what, when. Our bosses are pretty hands off as long as the work gets done.<br /><br />In the end you're right - it is all about choice - I just wish that more people these days would choose for time with their children then luxuries. No absolutes - nope.<br /><br />Take care, TTeresa Johannesma Woodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04452415576469118219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7145439356430068072.post-63502024179652226462012-06-28T02:29:48.133-07:002012-06-28T02:29:48.133-07:00I was going to pipe up the other day and say, &quo...I was going to pipe up the other day and say, "piffle" since that was the first thought that popped into my mind when I saw that figure of $234,900. <br />Gimme a break!<br />If it's that much money, why would anyone have kids?<br />Anyway, I'm getting side tracked here, and that's not what I was going to say.<br /><br />It's all about "choices". The folks who quote the day care figures as if it were some sort of "absolute" haven't come to grips with the notion that there are choices that can be made. <br />There's some sort of selfishness going on there when a career somehow takes precedence over child rearing. Which is not to say all Moms are good Moms. I'm sure there are some kids who benefit more from being in day care, but that's a whole other argument.<br />Sometimes the choices are limited. My wife's first husband was "less than ideal" shall we say? So she had to work. Case closed. Not long after we met etc., (they had parted company, and not amicably) and it became clear that she wanted to continue her education, that was the choice we made. Our resources were meagre to say the least.<br />It would have been wonderful to have had some parental help at that time, financially speaking or otherwise, but there was none. We managed.<br /><br />If you were to ask our children today (35 and 40 respectively) they would tell you that that was a good choice since, in spite of sacrifices earlier on, they've been able to go places and do things that very few of their peers have ever been able to do. <br /><br />Now, having said that, was there any other "outside help"? Yes, and fortunately it was a Mom whose kids were friends with our kids and so it was just a "home away from home" for them. We made monetary contributions when we could. We're friends to this day. <br />Daycare *shudder* would have been the absolute last resort, and I'm just glad we didn't have to go that route.<br />Is there an answer for everyone? No. But I don't think there are any absolutes either.<br />Everyone's mileage will vary.<br />You're doing it.<br />Best of luck to you.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523653271715366168noreply@blogger.com